Many times I have wondered, as I’m sure most women do, why God made me a woman. Since the beginning of time men have had more power than women. History tells us that we have struggled to get more power over men rather than equality. Eve was created to be Adam’s helper, yet she stepped out of her place when she gave Adam the fruit of the forbidden tree. And his weak leadership skills allowed her to influence him. (Genesis 3)
By being single, for a short time Adam knew what it meant to live in undivided devotion to the Lord. Paul said, “An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs – how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of the world – how he can please his wife – and his interests are divided.” (1 Corinthians 7:32 & 34) After God gave him a wife, he desired to please Eve. Adam had the experience/knowledge of what it was to be a single man, something Eve didn’t have.
Some women look at men’s relationship with God, as it relates to power, as just more responsibility. Those women tend to be more content with being single than others. These are the women that don’t mind waiting. But, what about the independent woman? The “Go-Getter” in her career who thinks she can transfer that same attitude to her “love” life?
Single Christian women that study the bible know what their role is compared to men, but we are also human and can use a little reminder. I’ve always struggled with waiting. I am a city girl and enjoy the fast pace society that I live in… I believe in fast food drive through windows, self check – out lanes at the grocery store and of course online shopping. Though, it would be very convenient to google Mr. Right, it’s just not gonna happen that way. So, I’ve taken the time to be busy during “the wait”. I’ve been working on me and my relationship with God and others. I’ve learned a lot and I understand that if I were truly ready that God would have blessed me with a husband already. Along with that, God may still be working on him; even Adam had to wait for Eve to be molded by God before he had a wife… The only difference is he was expected to search for her.
God doesn’t expect women to search for their husbands (Prov. 18:22). I must admit that at times that frustrates me to no end… I want to “do something” about my status… (Ironically status is often used interchangeably with power). Independent women see what they want and go after it. That strategy often puts us in powerful positions and makes us advocates for the women’s progression movement. Not exactly a negative thing, but a prudent woman progresses as God allows her to.
In Proverbs 8, wisdom and understanding is described as a woman. “For wisdom is more precious than rubies, and nothing you desire can compare with her. I, wisdom, dwell with prudence; I possess knowledge and discretion… I have understanding and power (Prov. 8: 11, 12 &14). Prov. 8: 17 says, “ I love those who love me, and those who seek me find me.” It takes “the wait” to become those things. The man who finds you at the end of your wait gains wisdom and understanding making him favorable to the Lord… Talk about bringing something to the table!
So, Why did God make me... to be a good thing! (Prov. 18:22)